For example, the thought assails you, “This shouldn’t be happening to me!” And you ask, “Is that true?” No. The truth, the verity, of the situation is that it is happening. That is what is. That is the truth. Thinking it shouldn’t happen will not change anything. All Should Sharks do is inflict pain—unnecessary pain.
Once you accept the fact that what happened happened the Should Shark vanishes, and you are free to then ask, “So how do I deal with what is happening in a healthy way?”
Once the Should Shark is gone, the unnecessary pain leaves, the unproductive negative mental chatter stops, and you are able to access and respond to the Spirit that directs and helps you navigate a happy life.
Questioning the truth of a Should Shark is like using a harpoon on a real shark. It saves us from a lot of pain.
Thanks for this follow-up to yesterday's post. I'm still learning to stop the unproductive negative chatter. But I'm getting better. :)
ReplyDeleteI have to agree with Wendi, I have slips but I'm more aware of my negative thoughts and seeing through them to the truth! Thank you.
ReplyDeleteHave you ever read Brene Brown? I think you'd love her stuff.
ReplyDeleteWendi and Camille, Slips are very normal! We all have them. The secret is to get back on the horse and keep riding. Thanks for you comments. I appreciate it. smj
ReplyDeleteRunningfan, I have read everything I can get my hands on by Brown. I wrote about her awhile back. http://sherriejohnson.blogspot.com/search?q=Brene+Brown
ReplyDeleteShe is good!
Perfect! Just what I needed to hear!
ReplyDelete~Jenny