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Living in Truth Challenge #2 - Fix it or Live With It
Remember vexation is the first clue that we have left the
Realm of Truth
and drifted into
Illusion.
Let's use an example here that we can all relate to. Someone in your life disappoints you.
Perhaps they said they'd do something for you and they don't do it. Or maybe we expect something to happen and it doesn't like your spouse forgets your wedding anniversary. Suddenly you find yourself swimming with the Should Sharks.
"He/she should have remembered. No one cares about me. If he/she loved me they'd remember."
This week the challenge is to stop yourself the minute the Should Sharks attack and ask the questions, "Can I fix this or do I need to live with it?"
If the answer is that you can fix it, go ahead and do it without wasting more time feeling sorry for yourself. If the answer is that you can't, then drop the
Unnecessary Pain
and get on with your life.
Back to our example: Can you fix the fact that your spouse forgot your anniversary? No. What's done is done, and you can't change it. But you can control how you feel about it. You can make the situation worse by crying, complaining, getting angry, nagging, shutting yourself in your room and in other ways feeling sorry for yourself, etc. Or you can use the same amount of time and energy on fixing it. You can make a joke out of it and laugh. Buy yourself a present for your spouse to give to you. Take your spouse out to dinner. Or you can decide that next year you are going to send a note to your spouse before the date with a reminder or give some other hint so this doesn't happen again. At this point another Should Shark begins to circle: "If he/she loved me, he/she would remember!" Is that true? No way! Different people have different ways of showing love, and associating the ability to remember with the ability to love is an Illusion.
So. . . this week as soon as the vexation begins to boil, stop and ask,
"Can I fix this or do I have to live with it?"
and then do what you have to avoid the
Unnecessary Pain
and stay in the
Realm of Truth.
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