Friday, November 13, 2009

The Power of Positives

You are all familiar with the verse in Proverbs 15:1, “A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.” It is so true. Many an argument can be averted if one party resorts to soft words. But there is a principle behind these words that extends the wisdom of this verse to so many other areas of our lives. The principle is that given enough time a positive will always overcome a negative. By positive I mean the good things such as kindness, love, hope, generosity, empathy, and consideration. By negative I mean the bad things such as hate, envy, anger, and unkindness.

The thing that confuses us is that often we resort to negative responses because they seem to work faster. If we yell loud enough or are angry enough we intimidate others into doing what we want them to do faster. But if you’ve ever had someone make you do something by yelling or getting angry at you, you know that while you may do what they want, you don’t feel good about it. Their actions generate bad feelings in you. In essence the rule is that negatives generate more negatives. While using a negative may get immediate results eventually the negative feelings will come out in negative ways.

But if we take the time to use love, gentleness, and kindness it may take more time but it creates positive feelings in both parties. If we use our imagination and are patient, we can find positive ways to deal with any problem. The very best example of the principle “If given enough time a positive will overcome a negative” is the Atonement. Eventually the Atonement (the most positive thing that has ever happened) will overcome all negatives (sin, death, disease, sorrow, hurt, etc.).

So take time to find a positive response to any situation and see what happens in your life!

"Whatsoever ye sow, that shall ye also reap; therefore, if ye sow good ye shall also reap good for your reward" (D&C 6:33.


amanda said...

wow..this may be my favorite post of yours yet, sis. johnson! Very wise and applicable insight for leadership philosophies, apartment living, family relationships, etc. Thank you!

5L's said...

wow, this i will need to read EVERYDAY! i have such this problem and i don't want to do it anymore. thanks for the great post!

Sherrie Mills Johnson said...

Amanda, It is a very interesting principle to put into practice. I just watched an old movie tonight that shows this so well. It is "The Inn of 6th Happiness." Maybe you've seen it. If not it is worth watching!

Sherrie Mills Johnson said...

5L's, We all have this problem because it is what the world teaches, but all through the scriptures there are examples of the positives working. (Think Ammon for one!)

Wendi said...

This is so true. Positive creates more positive. And negative creates more negative. :)